Women's Expectations

It's obvious to most of us, yet many women, themselves, have no idea. The thing is, women don't actually want a man. Yup, it's almost that simple. Women want a companion whom, through the teaching of romantic comedies, fairy tales, tradition and outright delusion, they assume is a man. Men, in reality, don't work the way those "lessons" made it appear. Men watch and play sports. They power-struggle with themselves, their partners and their friends about everything. Men don't go out of their way for anything out of altruism. If a man brings you something, he wants to get something back, there are no exceptions to this rule. Oh and another thing, this one is really super-important: men don't know who they are. The "masculine identity" that particularly American men try to embody is a farse. It's wrong. It's inconsistent. It's also just plain stupid, but men, most of all, have no idea that it is anything but law. To them, man-rules are laws of nature. What does that make the women who meet a man, as he is playing by the rules and then 6 months into the relationship, expect him to be different? Uh... draw your own conclusions on that, but don't judge. Learn, apply. Lastly, for the women who the paragraph applies to, straight men are attracted to women. WOMEN. Not woman. Not Mary. Not the princess you think you are. Certainly not the woman you actually are. In fact, men are attracted to all of the above, at the same time. When you catch your man looking, be thankful you have a man with a sex drive and be glad he chooses to express it with you because that is the best you're going to get from anyone. Suppressing his attraction to other women, suppresses his attraction to all women. No exceptions. Anyway...

The women who really want a man, the company of men and the ways of men in their lives, already have 15 male friends. Everybody knows some. They drink beer, watch sports and when they want to go shoe shopping, they go with their mothers or sisters. They date, dream of weddings and smile at babies just like any other woman but they know that a "man's view" of those things is different and adapt their expectations to reality. They enjoy sex and are choosey about their partners but they don't expect love-making in the rain to a symphony of emotion, they expect satisfaction and respect that men want the same. The one thing you'll notice about these women, versus the first group, isn't that some magical intuition gives them knowledge of men's ways. It's that they learn from their experience and treat fairy-tales for what they are.

Reconnecting

It might just be time indeed to pick up the pace of my blogging. More specifically, let my inner dialogue flow in a way that is more concise and clear than the rants and tirades that sometimes punctuate the inane babble of the day to day. It's time to do this, not just for the sake of itself, but also to help me become a better communicator, improve my relationship with words. I've been out of it for a while and this is my opportunity to come back. More to come soon. See you there.

A new blog

I do a lot of writing. Most of it is emotional or reactionary and almost none of it is shared. While this has not been a problem in the past (for obvious reasons), it is time that I come out of my shell and and start publishing ideas. Once a week should be an attainable goal, an exercise in discipline and an opportunity to share and learn.

Once upon a time, this was not possible. If a person wanted to be published, he or she would have to submit letters to the editor, write for a local or obscure publication or beg to have their book published. These times have changed. Today, even a small time opinionist can become a nationally recognized writer whose commentary is trusted and respected.

My goal in writing a blog is not to be recognized nationally or to establish myself as a brand or to influence the ideas and perceptions of some imaginary reader base. Instead, I simply seek a medium greater than my own mind, where my thoughts can go unleashed.

I hope that if you're reading this, you click away from it as a better person or at least less bored. Thanks for stopping in.